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CBT for anger problems

The emotion (or "feeling") of the anger is a complex combination of physical sensations, cognitions (or thoughts) and behaviors.

The physical sensations associated with anger are well known. A racing heart, shortness of breath, dry mouth, butterflies in the stomach, trembling limbs, feeling hot and flushed etc. These may sound familiar – they are very similar to the physical sensations that occur in anxiety. This is not surprising – is the same physiological mechanism that underlies both emotions. Ira is the "fight against" component of the "fight or flight" response the perceived danger.

The physical sensations of anger and anxiety are driven by hormones released by the adrenal glands (small fabric bags located above the kidneys). These adrenal glands secrete adrenaline in the blood that spreads rapidly throughout the body. It acts on the adrenaline the body to prepare for the fight or flight by increasing the heart (heart racing) and respiratory (shortness of breath and dry mouth ") increasing blood pressure (feeling warm and red "), tensing the muscles (legs trembling"), etc.

thinking common concerns include cholera "He can not say / do that to me!" or "It's not fair!"

behavioral manifestations of anger include clench his fists, grinding his jaw and invade other's personal space.

It is very important to realize that all these 3 components interact and feedback to each other, causing an increase or decrease in the feeling of anger. For example, if you let yourself get angry and behave anger – shouting and screaming for example – that is the body to secrete more adrenaline, which further increases the feelings of anger.

Anger itself is not a problem – is an emotion that has advantages in certain situations. The "rage" seen in animals when they are threatened or fighting over territory or mating rights is clearly a survival strategy. A passive, mild-mannered Tiger, unlikely to live long!

Fortunately for most human beings no longer have to struggle to survive physically, eat or find a partner. This makes a lot of our redundant anger. However, the "flight or fight response" has developed in us (and most of animals) for millions of years we will continue to be angry for the foreseeable future. This can cause us to our surroundings and other problems.

I am not suggesting than trying to eliminate anger from our lives, but if we think that is causing problems for us or others, you can try to moderate and make it less harmful. Ideally, We can make it work for us and not against us.

CBT approaches anger, focusing on the thought processes associated with anger. The theory is that since our thoughts are an essential component of anger (along with the physical sensations and behaviors), if we can mitigate these feelings of anger that can moderate the other two components, through the feedback mechanism.

Often our thoughts – our interpretations of events – that trigger the response of anger in the first place. If we can make a more balanced and rational interpretation of the world around us, we can cut the response of anger in the bud. A good example it is our response to criticism. If we interpret every criticism as a malicious attack on us as a person, then you will be mad. If we can take a more balanced, rational view of criticism, we are disappointed, but we will avoid "hot under the collar. It may even be able to to see that sometimes our critics are right!

Another technique to temper the anger is too think more flexible. We have all seen young children and toddlers tantrums – may be apoplectic with rage! Often, this seems to be a result of an immature mind, inflexible – like young children have (and are) the rules that should never absolutely never be broken, either by themselves or (especially) by others. Oh, the horror scenes witnessed at parties of children when a child has "broken" the rules of a game!

Unfortunately, adults many of us continue with inflexible rules, never-to-be-a broken life. This is a problem if they are not screaming and writhing on the floor while wearing a suit. Examples of such rules are adults "Nobody should never be rude to me" "Life should not be unfair to me," and (my favorite) "Other people may drive as well and politely that I do."

There many problems with these rules. First and foremost among them is that they are not really "rules" at all – are your preferences. There is no law against people be rude to you, or life is unfair, or people they let out at the seams. You prefer not, but that's all it is – your choice. As a result, Most people are generally kind and decent to drive, and the world can not be totally unfair, after all, but there will always be exceptions. You can not control these exceptions, and you have such rigid rules is for a lot of anger in your life. Try to think about the meaning of "I prefer it when things my way, but sometimes not acceptable and I, and deal with it. "

This leads to another technique to temper the anger – moderating the language we use. It not only means avoiding taking, etc, but something more subtle than that, both in relation to the words we use internally and externally. Language is a powerful thing – after all, our thoughts are made of words (a few pictures shot) – and we can use to our advantage. So if something is not as has happened – someone hit the car in the parking lot – you can choose how to frame this event in language. We think "I would like it if I had not done, could have been more careful, this causes me some trouble and expense "Or we may think" He has done this deliberately! He was probably drunk! How can this happen today everyday! "One way to think about using a moderate, the extreme other uses. Same event, but the different responses of thinking. It is clear that the response This discomfort is not only more bearable, but also leads naturally to the trouble qualifying with a minimum of effort.

Thinking so more flexible also means accepting people – including yourself – as fallible human beings capable of making mistakes and doing wrong. Yet despite these flaws, they (and you) still have dignity and are worthy of respect. This also means that we accept that other people may have different opinions and points of view and, even if we disagree with them, we will not make us mad trying to admit they are wrong! In addition, we will not label others (or yourself) as "unpleasant" or "useless" or "selfish", etc. on the basis of one or two events or conversations. Everyone can, and probably has been all these things (and others) at some point in their lives, and probably more than once! If the label someone then not only are you being totally inaccurate on a complex and changing human being, but also can interpret everything they do in the future on the basis of that label. If a "bad" person coughs while you are lecturing, then obviously they have done deliberately to annoy you. Cue the angry response!

A final way to moderate anger uses interactions between thoughts, feelings and behavior of a slightly different way. Instead of focusing on the thought processes, this technique encourages you to focus on their behavior. To moderate its behavior is going to provide "negative feedback" (also called "feedback inhibition") to the system anger response, damping effects. So next time you feel very angry, instead of stomping around, shouting, waving their fists and intimidation Try taking slow, deep breaths, relax your hands, speaking at a normal volume and normal type, etc. This behavior will send the message calm "Things well "back to his body, causing the secretion of adrenaline to decrease and stop, thus reducing and eliminating the physical sensations of anger. Curiously, behaving as if it also works quietly in thought. So calm, measured behavior leads to a quiet mind and body.

The main problem with human beings and anger is that for most of us, anger is not helpful. In our modern life that most against irritations instead of an enemy tribe or wild voracious. It is no longer appropriate for us to go with the red face and wants to break the place. Using the techniques outlined above us can help moderate our anger.

I say "moderate" and not "eliminate." I think it is neither possible nor desirable to remove emotion fundamental as the wrath of a human being. We need a certain level of anger that drive us to act appropriately in situations where our interests are threatened. It can not be in physical danger, but can get angry prompt us to act when our leaders are giving us an excessive workload or our government is limiting our freedoms.

But maybe I should call this call is not anger, "but" strength "! (See above!)

About the Author

Dr Steve Last is a psychiatrist and therapist who uses CBT in Edinburgh. Please visit www.drstevelast.co.uk for more information about CBT and anger problems. His colleague Karen Hastings specialises in treating women with emotional and psychological problems. Please visit www.karenhastings.co.uk for more information.